(on default network manager now)
so i found out that if i logged out and back in again the icon would be fine, and the menu would also work as expected.
i had autologin on so i turned it off, and now it works from the minute i boot up my computer,
but now i have to input my password when i start my computer, not a big deal though.
i'm guessing you (tppthpthp) also have autologin enabled? try if logging out and in again helps with the icon and menu.
if so do this to disable autologin
sudo pluma /etc/lightdm/lightdm.conf
remove your username after "autologin-user="
save and then reboot
you'll have to login but the icon and right click menu should be fine now.